Its not a lot but its life...

Preface: Take that! You misrable rat!

I can now ponder on something that has been on my mind but too afraid to contemplate too deeply about. We all know that life is a constant revolution. It is only predictable in its steady force to move us on. The force that we needed since it’s hard to let go of our comfort zone, something dear and familiar. Its amazingly difficult to face the fact that someone doesn't love you anymore, especially when you know for sure that you are the greatest thing ever invented. But apparently not to him :( Is he blind or just plain dumb as i'm now discovering all men are, according to uselessmen?

Whatever.

People say it takes amazing courage to put yourself out there and love someone.
And it’s harder to let go of someone you love. And it’s harder still to hang in there when the love is no longer there.

What is this? I get the first 2 sentences. But the last? WTF? Fight for the love that is gone? I know some people who are willing to hang in there even when their partner is doing hanky panky with skanks pretty bad things. Yes when you think about it, it is amazing (at least to me) some people can love so deeply that they can forgive transgressions that are, from my point of view, simply unforgivable. Being in love doesn’t mean you have to sell your dignity does it? Is this what it boils down to?

On the other hand, one friend thinks that “hanging in there” could simply mean holding onto the feeling not the person. Accepting the pain and all, letting things be. Moving on with life ;) and not giving up on love itself.

I do believe that it takes tremendous amount of courage to know when to stop loving someone. Not because the feeling is not there. But because maybe something is missing. Maybe the attachment is gone. Maybe there’s no more giving & taking. Maybe there no more reason to share. It could be the distance. It could be the annoying way he sings(don’t try to find reason behind the reason, it’ll only hurt you).

Simply take things in stride. Let life push you forward. Take 2 aspirin and keep out the children *winks*

We're here on borrowed time, waiting for God to call us back home.

Preface: Pooh to Christopher Robin "If you live to be a 100, I want to live to be a 100 minus 1 day so I never have to live without you:".

I went to my sister’s grandfather-in-law’s tahlil last nite. I rarely go to a ‘funeral procession’ because it seems to me very sad ceremony and I figure most people (like me) would like to mourn in private. I feel it a bit intrusive and a hassle to the mourning family to have to host a ‘kenduri’ on top of everything else.
But last nite I went anyway because this is the second death in the family. Last month this old man’s wife passed away.

My sister told me that this couple has been married for 65 years! I was flabbergasted when I heard this. I never really thought about it, I mean I know that they were really really old but have never connected it to the amount of time they live together as husband & wife. Can you imagine 65 years of love, devotion and commitment? It’s more than double my LIFETIME! I was a mess after my breakup with my bf of only 8 months. The pain was almost unbearable. I cannot even begin to imagine his feeling when he lost his wife. Maybe it’s no surprise that he passed on. I suppose he couldn’t live alone without his wife after all those years of knowing someone is there needing and loving you. After 48 days being apart, I’d like to think that, they are now together again in heaven.